Getting Inside The Head Of The Abusive Personality
From: http://www.powercommunicating.com/articles/Getting%20Inside%20The%20Head%20Of%20The%20Abusive%20Personality.pdf Let’s get inside the head of the abusive mentality. But first let’s define abuse. Abuse in a relationship reflects a pattern(s) of behavior that is manifestly (or passive-aggressively) bullying , demeaning , manipulative , intimidating , threatening , coercive , and/or restrictingly controlling. The key word is pattern . Most non-abusive individuals perpetrate insensitivities from time to time that may be experienced as abusive. This may make the behavior abusive. But it is the pattern of behaviors that makes the individual abusive. What do we know about abusive personalities? We (know) that they are controlling . Then again, aren’t most of us controlling at times? Sometimes very? What, then, separates your garden variety controlling personality from an abusively controlling personality? The answer, fundamentally, is motive. Where the motive is to co...